June 21, 2022
“A prescription for a happy life...make your inside match your outside.” (p.250)
Although not everyone who crosses our path gets our full story, life is a happier place when we exercise the freedom to be ourselves. I am a recovering people pleaser, but that’s a job that actually disconnects us from our true self. I used to ask lots of questions and try to anticipate what others around me wanted next, but in that process, I lost a sense of myself and what I wanted most out of my days. To reclaim that space of freedom often feels lonely, because a side effect of pleasing people is that there is a lot of short term praise that can make you feel good, even like you are on the right track. But the truth is it pulls us away from the path that was meant for our life. As I look back through letters, newspaper articles and the journals that follow us to midlife, I see where my desire to please created a space where I felt one way about what was going on around me, but didn’t make it known. The more often we do that, our life starts to feel like two different stories that are exhausting to keep up. When we learn how to say no, set our own priorities and boundaries for ourselves, and have the courage to speak our minds, we set up a place where our true self can shine. When we begin to live in this alignment, the long term will never be lonely because we find ourselves attracting strong hearts and minds that are not threatened by our honesty. We were not made for everybody, but we will bond with the right people when we have the courage to be ourselves.
Daily Action: Write for 3 mins about an area of your life where you struggle to be honest with someone or yourself. See if your words can help identify why.
Daily Reframe: We make the right people happy by being ourselves.